A couple of weeks ago we found out that Hayden can have his lens implants done. We actually could have had them done them a year ago, but we didn’t know that. When we had Hayden’s cataracts removed, the ophthalmologist told us we couldn’t get his implants until he was a teenager (which I interpreted as “on his own insurance and able to do his own eye drops” 😂). Chris happened to ask a question about it on the way out of Hayden’s last appointment and she filled us in. My first question (that I kept to myself) was: Why in the world did she not mention this before now?!?! My next question (which I also kept to myself) was: Do we have to? And I was only sort of joking.
Just to be clear. This will be great for Hayden in the long run. He will have better (aka Any) peripheral vision and better long distance vision. With the contacts and glasses he has now, he can only really see things that are very close to him, which occasionally means running into corners or tripping over things at his feet because he can’t see them. He manages, but it sure makes things difficult. The implants they inject will be set for a farther distance and he will wear bifocals until he grows into the new lenses. I’m not entirely sure about how it all works and if I’m being perfectly honest, I don’t really care. She knows how it works and has done this procedure a lot, so that’s good enough for me. I just want him to see better, however that happens. Google Intraocular Implant if you want to know more.
What I do know is that he will have better vision a lot sooner than if we had to wait until he was older. That’s all great and wonderful and exciting…HOWEVER, I have become a contact ninja. We’ve got a good system going and his glasses are so cute we can’t stand it.
I am not at all excited to rock the boat and upset the system. The saying “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” would fit perfectly…except for the “not broke” part. Surgery dates are set for the next two weeks and he will be out of school for a bit while he recovers (This also makes me nervous. He is really liking school and gets bored at home very quickly, which will be awesome when we are trying to lay low and let his eyes recover. Booze is always welcome. Email me for my address 😜).
The up side is that the actual procedure takes very little time and we will get to go home once he wakes up! He was so little during his first two eye surgeries that we had to have them done in Jacksonville and stay overnight in the hospital. Luckily, we have family in that area so we were able to stay with them for the week in between the procedures. It was definitely comforting to have them nearby, but being able to come home this time will be great. Recovery should be pretty easy and only involves patches and drops a couple of times a day for a while.
All of our friends and family are very excited for us and especially for Hayden, but if I’m being totally honest, I’m kind of numb about the whole thing. I hate that this will be his 5th & 6th time under anesthesia, and while I know that there are other kids who have been under a lot more than that, it’s still nerve-racking to have your little guy in surgery. The risks are all Extremely low and he’s never had an adverse reaction before, but you can’t help but to worry (especially when you’re fabulous at it, not to brag). We are also trying to keep our expectations low. The road to his better vision is suddenly a lot shorter, but we aren’t sure what it will be like immediately following the surgeries. The doctor said it will be a definite change, but we are afraid to get too excited and then be disappointed. This may be the more pessimistic approach, but I would rather be realistic than upset that it wasn’t what we expected. The end result will be great, but my good friend Stressful Anxiety III is fighting for top-shelf brain space. I’ve taken up yoga and meditating lately and it seems to be helping with the small things, but we will see how it matches up to the big dogs. In a cage match, I’m not sure how my child’s pose will stack up. It may just be the fetal position at that point…
I would love to hear from other parents out there whose kids have had surgery. Any tips, tricks, games, and positive thoughts you could send our way would be greatly appreciated. And wine. Lots and lots of wine.